(Reclaim your power)
Many women choose to live lives in the safety and security of what is already known and familiar by means of marriage, motherhood, victim-hood, or even constant ill health. Universally accepted concepts make it easy to live without questioning and at the same time blame every problem on someone or something else allowing the person to sit back and enjoy a false sense of self while doing nothing with regard to self empowerment or independence. This state of consciousness usually continues until someone or something “rocks the boat” and their belief system of concepts about how everything should or must look in order to be “right” is threatened.
These people happily live as followers of whatever concepts happen to be in vogue at the time avoiding taking responsibility for anything and and looking to others to make decisions for them. They may say; “My husband or kids wouldn’t want me to do that.” or “I can’t because I am not smart, rich, strong, or healthy enough.” “I couldn’t survive without my husband’s income.” ” My preacher/priest says that is a sin to do that.” “My family, husband, children know what is best for me…” etc. etc… This stagnant approach to life prevents personal growth on all levels. Any dreams or ideas the person may have once had, simply wither and die from lack of sustenance frequently adding fuel to the person’s blame and victim-hood game. It is a vicious cycle, but one that can be broken.
For the most part, women of all ages still carry the energy of low self esteem as a result of past lives lived in forced submission as well as present times that continue to denigrate females as being less than males. Mistakenly believing that imitation will bring the acceptance and love that their idol enjoys, women continue striving to emulate beautiful, rich, and famous women even when some particular trend does not really appeal to them them. There are women of all ages who dress and act provocatively and allow themselves to be sexually “used” in the false belief that sex equals love. Seeking acceptance and love by imitating another indicates a lack of self love and ignorance of ones own uniqueness as an individualization of God.
The focus of this article is on women, because women have been programmed over time to being the weaker sex, in need of protection, and a firm hand. This old programming also promotes the idea that a woman’s role and duty is only to serve others and “fix” everyone or anything believed to need “fixing”even at the cost of her own self-hood. These ideas are usually served up by people in positions of authority (organized religion, patriarchal families, traditions, dogmas, conservative governments etc.)who remain rigidly attached to what may of worked in the past.
Many middle eastern countries still consider women to be invisible and unimportant and enforce these beliefs through laws and attitudes consisting of physical, emotional, and mental bondage. Masculine energy devoid of its feminine aspect will manifest as aggression and violence. Time is quickly running out for those continuing to cling to these obsolete concepts for the majority is beginning to realize that there is no such thing as a weaker sex–different, but not weaker.
Every person holds both masculine and feminine energies because every person’s real Self is Divine Consciousness individualized and God knows no opposites. Each aspect of the one whole holds unique qualities that act to support, balance, uphold, and complete the other. When in balance, they express through an individual as wholeness, completeness, and personal power based in unconditional love.
Feminine energy is less aggressive and more nurturing because it is the receptive, intuitive, gentler facet of Divine energy. Because of these qualities, women have been considered weak and less capable of making intelligent decisions. Earlier generations simply accepted these false concepts without question even believing that women were happiest, content, and fulfilled when caring for others (them) through motherhood, marriage, or in performing menial work. Women were expected to be grateful, complacent, and accepting of their “place” and the sad thing is, many women as well as men continue to embrace these ideas. Wealth through marriage or inheritance occasionally allowed a woman some power to make her own choices, but even then her choices were often over ridden or severely restricted.
Some men choose to live this way as well, especially if they still carry the programming of many precious lives as females. Males who allow fear to hold them in a “safe” cocoon of non-action often live lives of quiet desperation constantly fearful of rocking someone’s mythical boat while at the same time pretending to be productive and happy. More often than not, they chose a male body for this particular incarnation because on a soul level they realized their need to develop, integrate, and balance their masculine energy.
Everyone is on earth to spiritually evolve and there comes a point in everyone’s evolutionary journey when the attainment and balancing of both masculine and feminine aspects is imperative for spiritual evolution. Many have done this in previous lifetimes and are easily recognizable as individuals who are kind and nurturing (feminine) but also have strong “take charge” energy if or when necessary. The true essence of every soul is an equal balance of both the masculine (active, be-er, do-er) and the feminine (receptive, intuitive) but this is not yet generally known or accepted in the human scene because the density of third dimensional energy requires that every individual have a physical, material body of one gender or the other.
Gender confusion is nothing more than the result of a person living lifetime after lifetime as one gender and then realizing that he/she must bring more balance to their masculine and feminine energies and choose pre-birth to incarnate as the gender they are less familiar with. Once on earth in the density of three dimensional energy they forget this choice and because they are still resonating with the familiar energy of their many previous lifetimes, he/she believes they are in the wrong body and that there is a physical problem.
When a woman is spiritually ready to more fully integrate her masculine aspect but continues to ignore it, opportunities will arise that force her to utilize her masculine. “Wake up calls” are often necessary for both men and women accustomed to living the status quo–doing what they are told, never asserting themselves or taking responsibility, and feeling no need to change.
A woman may find her life suddenly filled with one experience after another that forces her to speak her truth or take some sort of action (masculine-active, be-er, do-er energy) regardless of how uncomfortable or foreign these situations may be. “Wake up calls” are never conscious choices because most would choose to avoid them, but every individual’s Higher Self knows exactly when a soul is ready for the next phase of their spiritual journey and how to get them there.
The imbalance of masculine and feminine energy on earth has resulted in a great deal of misunderstanding with regard to marriage, employment, spirituality, and the many facets of ordinary living. There are those so insecure and unaware of who and what they really are that they automatically look outside of themselves for every answer weakening their own innate empowerment in the process.
Everyone is on earth to spiritually evolve, to exercise their free will, have experiences, make decisions, and learn from them. Some choices may be disastrous and some not but that is how earth school works. Over lifetimes of making choices and experiencing the consequences, teaches and eventually awakens every soul to its true spiritual nature which is empowerment.
Because earth is presently experiencing an ascension process and shifting closer to the higher frequencies of her real self, every evolving soul must begin to acknowledge and step into their personal power. There can be no evolutionary progress when a person continues clinging to the belief that everyone was created as a half…half of a couple, half of the whole, half of God’s energy, half of anything.
Up to now the three dimensional ignorance of personal power has allowed governments, educators, churches, families, friends, etc. to make the rules for everyone else, but the new and higher frequencies of Light now integrating into earth’s collective consciousness are dissolving that which is false, obsolete, and finished.
Believing that one’s good is only attainable through the intercession of another, be it Jesus, Buddha, the saints, ascended Beings, your pastor or those in power is illusion. Everyone is an individualized expression of God, Divine Consciousness, and as such every individual has free will and is responsible for themselves. This can include loving guidance from the spiritual masters if one wants it but is never dependent upon it. God needs nothing outside of ITself because nothing exists outside of ITself.
A woman who has integrated her masculine will never again feel obligated to accept another person’s choices for her when her own resonate as being correct, nor will she shrink back from her dreams and goals in the belief that as a woman she is not smart, educated, physically capable, or allowed to have them. An woman or man who has integrated both their masculine and feminine aspects is not afraid to make decisions and then act upon them, and will never again believe that personal validation is dependent upon outside opinions or concepts.
As a woman she now accepts that being a spark of the Divine means that she is whole and complete, her masculine acting and supporting her feminine, her feminine loving and intuitively guiding her masculine. She is not afraid to wear her “big girl pants”.
Self empowerment never excludes asking another’s opinion, consulting an expert, or considering another’s wishes or obligations–nor does it mean that every choice will always be the right choice. It does mean having the confidence to make and stand behind one’s intuitively guided personal choices (an activity of the masculine aspect). Mistakes will be made, but one quickly realizes that the sky does not fall down if an erroneous decision is made. This is how inner strength and confidence grows allows one to make new and better choices.
To paraphrase Mary Baker Eddy; “my masculine protects, supports, and takes care of my feminine and my feminine nurtures, guides, and loves my masculine…”
MCR 11/19/13 updated 9/25