HEALING THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE
Healing the Masculine Shadow – Stage 1
At this stage, the masculine is purged out of their known reference points by having the normalcy of their current reality shaken, as the unconsciousness of past indiscretions is brought into the light of consciousness. This is done to purify the shadow into the honor, humility, and courage of the divine masculine. This has been playing out publicly as many celebrities and authority figures are being called to face and answer to the unconsciousness of their actions, whether it’s their current level of unconsciousness or skeletons from the past being cleared out of the closet of regret.
As the masculine mind comes clean to coercing, dominating, abusing, or manipulating the innocence of the feminine heart, the masculine shadow begins its process of being reformed by a path of self-forgiveness.
For those at this stage of integration, the best course of action is transparency. Instead of waiting for a publicity witch hunt to trace your most regrettable actions, now is the time for the masculine mind to confess its most unsavory behavior.
Even if knowing better now than before, the way in which we truly demonstrate having learned from our past mishaps is by clearing the air with those we affected, no matter the risk or cost. Whether anyone else offers you forgiveness or not, just by admitting the limitations of your behavior and acknowledging the negative affect it potentially had on someone else’s livelihood, we are taking a bold step in the direction of self-forgiveness to assist the masculine shadow in being redeemed instead of ridiculed.
Healing the Masculine Shadow – Stage 2
At this stage, you have done a certain amount of your inner work and may even embody the qualities of the divine masculine. While completion of stage 1 is expressing the divine masculine through the words and actions of personal responsibility, stage 2 can be a bit more precarious. It is because throughout stage 2, the masculine is no longer healing their personal masculine shadow, but holding space to help heal the shadow of the feminine archetype throughout the play of personal relationships.
This means that an awakening divine masculine is often put in a position to heal the karmas and emotional blockages of their feminine counterparts from their history of past relationships. In stage 1, the masculine heals on a personal level. In stage 2, the masculine heals the relationship dynamic by assisting in the transformation of the feminine from shadow to divine aspect. It may sound unfair to have to pay the karmic bar tab others racked up before you, but it is a crucial stage of surrender.
From this depth of surrender, the masculine holds patient space to help the feminine develop the trust and faith in surrendering into the heart of their masculine counterpart. Metaphorically, the feminine surrendering into the masculine has nothing to do with handing over power to a partner, but symbolic of the feminine heart merging into oneness with the cosmic mind of heaven.
As the masculine holds space to help heal the wounds the feminine carries from cycles of abuse and persecution, the masculine demonstrates their alignment with Source to give the feminine permission to merge into the light of divinity that can be depicted as two hearts becoming one.
Just as the awakened mind learns to hold space for the heart to faithfully open, the awakening divine masculine must be the openness, consistency, and unconditional love that invite the shadow to surrender its guard and allow the innocent feminine heart to come out of hiding.
For those at this stage of integration, the best course of action is to develop a daily practice of gratitude and self-love, while holding courageous space for the feminine aspects within and throughout to find the strength to trust again. A spiritual ego steeped in arrogance may think: “This isn’t fair. I shouldn’t have to heal these layers that have nothing to do with me.” Meanwhile, an awakening heart rooted in humility says: “May I embrace the honor of helping my beloved to heal, so there will be no barrier to divide us from the love that brought us together.”
Healing the Feminine Shadow – Stage 1
The feminine shadow is the cellular memory of past abuse cycles that shields itself from potential harm by rejecting those who get too close. Since the unconscious belief suggests more hurt will occur whenever we are open and vulnerable, the feminine shadow either rejects those they want to be close with or attempt to build intimate relationships with emotionally-unavailable partners.
Often times, it is a history of emotionally-unavailable partners that creates this push-pull energy when in the presence of those who are open and able to love. This unconscious self-fulfilling prophecy inevitably reflects the feminine shadow’s tendency to be so hurt, heartbroken, and battered by the past indiscretions of the masculine that it attempts to match the unconsciousness of the masculine as a way of keep itself protected.
For those at this stage of integration, it is crucial to take inventory of your relationships to ensure you aren’t perpetuating toxicity in any areas of your life. When toxic relationships are present, you will surely be called into an equal aspect of shadow just to stay afloat in partnerships that may serve your personal desires, but aren’t destined to reflect the sustainability of true intimate partnership.
Once there are no glaringly toxic distractions pulling at you, the next crucial step is to develop a deep bond with yourself and those you trust, so you can begin associating opening up and being vulnerable with the ability to feel safe. As this occurs, the world becomes a stable environment to attract more meaningful and long-lasting relationships, instead of being ongoing reflections of a painful past.
One of the most effective ways to heal the feminine shadow throughout stage 1 is to find the courage to talk about your experiences. Because abuse is a dominating experience of being silenced and held against our will, speaking about our experiences gives a voice to the voiceless parts in ourselves and offers the choices that seemed absent whenever abuse occurred.
I personally applaud movements like #MeToo for giving the feminine heart a voice to express its pain. As pain is given a voice to be heard, the feminine finds the courage and strength to forgive the unconsciousness of the masculine, instead of fighting fire with fire, so to speak. In stage 1, the feminine finds a voice to express its pain, clear out toxicity from relationships, while learning to open up within themselves and others without feeling threatened or a need to either lash out or shut down. This prepares the feminine for stage 2, where a deeper dive into conscious communication, trust, and forgiveness paves the way for true redemption to dawn.
Healing the Feminine Shadow - Stage 2
As you find the safety to be open to yourself and others, like the masculine, the feminine begins working on transforming the dynamic of relationships. Just as the masculine holds space for the feminine to blossom, the feminine learns to develop trust in their counterparts to allow a surrendering into true intimacy to unfold. As the feminine shadow is transformed throughout stage 2, the feminine is allowing current circumstances to be different than past abuse cycles.
The crucial skillsets for the feminine at stage 2 is openness and communication. Openness answers the question, “How can I be more intimate in my relationships today and if I’m unable to take a step forward into intimacy, can I communicate my needs to those I love?” While it is natural for a partner to be disappointed whenever their beloved cannot meet them in an intimate space, the ability to communicate where we are at invites our partners into our experience instead of reinforcing how left out, dissatisfied, or unrecognized they feel.
When integrated in a healthy relationship dynamic, the masculine holds space for the feminine to feel safe and cared for through the reliability of the masculine’s most empowered conscious actions. As the masculine holds space for the feminine to surrender and open up, the feminine allows each day to be a step forward in rewriting the history of abuse cycles by being intimate with faithful trusting partners. If unable to do so, the necessity of communication allows the masculine to feel invited into the healing of the feminine, whether pertaining to their past or as lingering residue from unrelated experiences.
While the masculine may view physical intimacy as a way of expressing its feelings for their feminine counterpart, true intimacy also includes hand-holding, foot rubs, eye gazing, breath work, cuddling, and engaged active listening.
Once the feminine can trust the masculine is interested in connection and not just the physicality of being gratified, the feminine develops the trust to open up, let go, and invite in all the love their masculine counterpart is yearning to share.
Another important element in healing the feminine shadow at stage 2 is actively forgiving the indiscretions of the stage 1 masculine shadow, instead of demeaning the masculine as the masculine has done to the feminine over the course of history. Just like the masculine may not find it fair to pay the karmic bar tabs from their beloved’s past, the feminine may equally find it unfair to be so forgiving of the masculine shadow, especially in the aftermath of such senseless and brutal abuse cycles.
To not forgive the masculine shadow is to maintain a shadow aspect as the feminine. When this occurs, we are nice on the surface but ruthless to anyone who dares to cross our path and willing to betray anyone or anything in order to get our way. Inevitably, it just maintains the war of inner conflict that is easily justified through standpoints of righteousness. As a way of assisting both aspects into alignment with divine perfection, if you come across a public figure being indicted for charges, lets us honor the justice taking place, while forgiving their soul, so they may be purified, instead of incessantly punished.
Unconscionable punishment may be the best description for how the feminine has been treated by the masculine, but it is the opportunity of the feminine to help reform the masculine with greater mercy, compassion, and love than the past can ever reflect. Equally so, it is the duty of the masculine to anchor the divine feminine as two equal aspects of the same alchemical whole.
Despite our deepest desires, none of these stages can be rushed. Even when we wish we were further along than we may be, it is essential to be honest with yourself and others about where we are it in our healing journey. In doing so, the individual and collective consciousness of all heals the fractures and divisions that have divided the masculine and feminine into shadow aspects for far too long.
As the masculine is reformed to hold reverence and respect for the feminine, the feminine rises to equal power without having to express its will in a masculine way. From this space of equality, the divine masculine listens and loves without attachment, as the divine feminine opens up to intimacy and communicating their needs in the safety of sacred partnership.
No matter where you are in your journey, may you know the light of your true perfection and welcome into your heart the ecstasy of love that resides within as each and every breath. It may not be easy or even seem fair, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It reflects the brightness of the one who is willing to succeed, fail, pick themselves up, brush themselves off, and keep moving forward -- against all odds.
My love is with all of our hearts now and forever.
Many blessings belovelies,
UNDERSTANDING THE PURPOSE OF OUR LIVES
Excerpt from Matthew's Messages
To understand the purpose of our lives, there must be an understanding of our relationship with Creator, the ultimate power in the cosmos. It is a relationship as simply stated as the father and his children, but the origin of our souls within Creator cannot be stated that easily.
The energy of Creator/Creation—the proper designation of the Totality or Source or Oneness of All—is pure love-light and it is the most powerful force in the cosmos. That name designation also is the most descriptive, encompassing both the total essence of that ultimate source and the creative action. For simplicity in communication, we usually say only Creator.
There was nothing before Creator and nothing except the sleeping power of Creator until Its first self-expression of Its essence. In that moment, which some call the “Big Bang,” the original fragmentation of Creator’s love and wisdom and power came forth as individual soul entities.
The term “fragmentation” in this context is not a severing or a breaking down of the whole; it is bestowing upon all the individual parts the same properties, or elements, that make up the whole. And from that first instant of Creation, those first souls and everything else that exists throughout the cosmos are inseparable from Creator and each other. At soul level, ALL IS ONE and forevermore shall be.
However irreverent this analogy may seem, it is the best visual aid I can think of, so I ask you to imagine the spiritual hierarchy of Creator as a pie. The entire pie is Creator Soul: the Omnipotent Totality, the Source of All; and at the center is Creator Mind: Omniscience, All Knowledge. Starting at the center, imagine a series of concentric rings superimposed over the whole pie—the rings are the spheres of the hierarchy, the flexible divisions of Creator.
The visual aid now requires an unusual perspective for accurate representation. Imagine the pie cut into countless slices whose widest ends touch the center, the limitless mind of Creator, and become narrower as the slices enter rings successively farther from the midpoint.
The slivers represent the independently experiencing soul fragments of Creator that have been created, or manifested, throughout all time. Every portion contains proportionally exactly the same ingredients as the total pie and no portion is separate from another. It is the same throughout All of Creation.
Now we return to the Beginning, when Creator first divided Itself. Each of the fragments within that first sphere of the spiritual hierarchy’s perfect light and purity had the identical powers of Creator. This is the sphere of Christed light, where the paternal power called Archangel Michael and the other archangels originated, and where for unknown eons only pure awareness existed.
Then Creator gave to all those parts of Itself the ultimate gift, free will with its inherent power of co-creating ability—“co-creating” because the energy source for producing anything comes from Creator and the productions come from the ideas of the souls. And so it was that those highest angels and Creator made the second angelic sphere. Although not as close to Creator Mind as the archangels, these newer souls also were composed of pure light, without form or substance.
After reflection for untold ages, the two angelic realms had the idea to co-create souls with life form potential—they had the choice of remaining discarnate, without form, or manifesting a form for wider experiencing. The co-creations in this third sphere are the celestial bodies throughout the universes and the gods and goddesses, who could choose to remain discarnate or embody in male or female forms—either way, these souls are androgynous, the perfect balance of male and female energies.
As we understand it, the souls Creator selected to reign over the universes are discarnate. They may show their presence as near-blinding golden white light, but their unlimited co-creating powers and ideas are evident in everything that exists within their respective universes.
One of those gods is the Supreme Being of our universe and, with Creator, created everything within it. Since our god is called God by some Earth religions and that is how you think of Him, Mother, that is how I shall refer to Him. Also, God is a perfect blend of male and female energies and Mother/Father God accurately expresses His essence, but on Earth He usually is referred to only as Father and with masculine pronouns.
That evolved naturally when male energies began to dominate the nature of Earth civilizations millennia back in your timing; and even though feminine, or goddess, energy is being beamed to the planet in abundance, simply for ease of speaking I shall use the more usual masculine designations you are accustomed to.
Now then, for ever-greater experiencing, God’s original beings, which are called root souls, expressed themselves into divisions called soul fragments or soul sparks, or God fragments or God sparks. Similarly and successively, those souls divided themselves into sparklets, who divided themselves into sub-sparklets. Entities created by further fragmentation also are called sub-sparklets. The myriad individual, independent and inviolate lifetimes of every soul at all levels of fragmentation are called personages.
I gave you those designations—and there may be others, too—only to show the order of lineage in the innumerable spheres radiating outward from the mind of Creator. None of the designations defines the souls’ spiritual evolution status, and simply “soul” is sufficient because there is no difference in each one’s connection with Creator or its makeup in proportional measure.
Always the life force of even the newest soul is its own independent, inviolate Self, and it is connected inseparably to God and Creator, just as every single cell in your body is both a viable, independently functioning cell and at the same time is an inseparable aspect of the composite—the person you are.
Matthew, where does our current population fit into the subdivided spheres?
Primarily at sub-sparklet level, but remember, Mother, that’s NOT soul evolution—it’s only the order the personage souls emerged for independent experiencing! I think your expression “old soul” pertains to the evolution part and not the order of lineage. Those may have nothing at all to do with each other, because spiritual growth is determined by each soul’s free will choices and not how many lifetimes it took to make the choices that elevated it to a higher level of spiritual evolution.
And now—a time that is without precedence not only on Earth but in the universe!—there are some extremely “old souls” on your planet to guide the rest of you to greater enlightenment.
Oh, I see. Thank you, dear. Is Creator the supreme being of the cosmos and God is an assistant?
No. Cosmos and universe often are used interchangeably as synonymous terms, but each universe is only one part of the cosmos, which has several universes, and each has its own god or goddess as its Supreme Being. Because people on Earth are not aware of other universes and their rulers or the spiritual creation hierarchy, God is the name some religions have given to Creator.
This is using a generic term for a formal name, like naming a baby girl Girl. And it is not uncommon or incorrect for God to be referred to as “our creator,” because He is, but that adds just another element of confusion about Creator and God and the names.
I don’t know how the name error started. It may have been some deviation of reference in deepest antiquity, when it was known that Creator/Creation is the Source, All That Is, I AM, Almighty, Oneness, Totality or other name to denote Creator as Supreme Being of the entire cosmos. The name doesn’t matter. When love and reverence are given to Creator in name and to God in meaning or vice versa, the communion is honored in fullness.
The Trinity of the Christian churches could be interpreted like this: Father (Creator: the highest power in the cosmos, who is called God or other names in your religions). Son (God, who is the creation, or the “son” of Creator, and although the Supreme Being only of our universe, is not generally recognized on Earth as different from Creator). Holy Ghost (the realm, or sphere closest to Creator, also called the Christed realm, where the highest beings are total love expressed as light; and from whence come the souls who incarnate to become major spiritual influences throughout this universe, including Jesus the Christ and Buddha the Christ on Earth).
Regardless of the difference in names and interpretations, the interconnectedness of this triune order is the same. And there is no difference in the divine order of the Almighty Omnipotent and Omniscient Creator Being and Its subsequent powers, only in the names as they have evolved.
Do God and Creator differ in any way besides the size of their “jurisdiction”?
Yes, there are two essential differences, but first let me repeat that any part of Creator contains ALL of Its elements. Therefore, God is a perfect, undiluted expression of Creator and in effect is Creator for this universe—Creator mind in knowledge and wisdom, Creator heart in love, Creator power in authority and responsibility.
Now, the first essential difference is this: Creator’s core essence is the center of order and life in the cosmos, and a vital function of that essence is not active. Like the axle of a wheel provides an “anchor” for the parts in motion, the stable force within Creator enables the constant motion of Its other parts. If that stability ceased, life itself would cease. The creation of life in any form requires the measured pace of energy frequencies, and that requires both the stable and the active aspects of Creator’s functioning.
God is active in all aspects. As the magnified active force of Creator in this universe, with the same quality and extent of Creator’s love and light energy essence, God initiates all life forms and all order here. Just as in the cosmos where the highest, most powerful energy is light—the essence of Creator— so is that true in this universe—the essence of God. Light is a fluctuating, expanding and contracting motion ever increasing in its power to encompass more loving capacity and sensation.
Light can be directed but never captured or destroyed, and Love is infinite. This love-light force, which is the same energy simply expressed differently, is the foundation of individual souls interacting with God.
Because life in all forms in our universe comes from God, it can be said that humans are made in His image by attributing to Him His human creations. The idea of a human appearance and the material of which physical bodies are made came from the mind of God.
With the creation of life in our universe He set in motion the unstoppable momentum of laws that govern everything from the orbiting of galaxies to a seed knowing when to emerge from its covering and start growing. For the immeasurable time since this was started, only the refinements of energy direction through technology have changed the original course of energy’s divine purpose and motion. There cannot be any change within energy itself because energy IS creation. It is how energy is tapped into and used that is the key to creating.
In the beginning, all creation within this universe was flawless, pure, holy and loving. All was in perfect harmony and union, and life was meant to be lived like that. Creator intended free will to be a gift to all souls—that is why, by cosmic law, rulers of all the universes are bound to honor the free will choices of every soul in their respective domains.
But it is possible that this Gift of all gifts, the total freedom of souls to choose, has been so abused and misused that it cannot be regarded as the golden gift it once was. In some universes free will is unknown, so we are told, and even in parts of this universe, souls have absorbed the gift into such radiance that it no longer is an individual decision, but rather a unified choice of myriad collective souls. However, in accordance with Creator’s law, on Earth free will is the order of life wherein the hand of God is ever-present in observation but never permitted to restrict or deny souls’ choices.
The second essential difference between Creator and God is this: Whereas Creator is aware of each individual life throughout the cosmos, there is no standard for Its involvement in the lives of the souls or interaction with them. God is not only aware of each soul’s station in this universe, He knows every person’s heartaches, secret dreams, torments, joys, fears. ALL in known to God.
When Creator left Its state of sublime stillness, the purpose was to experience through creating. As the perfect expression of Creator, God has the same purpose, and His sentient aspect is within every one of His creations in any incarnate or discarnate lifetime. He feels the very same emotions being felt by all souls in spirit or in physical worlds. Not for even one instant is He detached from the total sensations of all souls regardless of their spiritual evolvement status and free will choices, and this also pertains to every life form within the animal and plant kingdoms.
At a much higher level, God experiences the anguish of Earth in her present turmoil and heavy negativity, and the sensations of every other celestial body as well. I cannot state too often the inseparability of God from every life form in His universe, and that same interconnectedness is true of each soul with every other soul in all life forms.
The term “personal God” that sometimes is used on Earth is absolutely accurate because God IS every person there as well as every other soul in the animal and plant kingdoms. Feeling the collective sensations of all life on Earth, much less the sensations of ALL life throughout this universe, simultaneously is impossible for even the most highly evolved souls in this universe to imagine.
Since Creator doesn’t become involved in our lives, does that mean It (?!) doesn’t feel souls’ physical pain and emotional suffering like God does?
Mother, “It” as a pronoun for Creator is not demeaning. This use cannot be compared with your “it” indicating a thing or condition rather than a being. When applied to Creator, It is akin to white: White is not devoid of color, it is the color composite. From white, all colors of the universe are refracted into their own essences, and elsewhere in the universe are many magnificent hues unknown on your planet.
Now then, Creator does indeed experience feelings of souls throughout Creation, and to a far vaster height of sentience than the capacity of your third density bodies, but It does not become involved or give personal response to any soul’s situation. God, on the other hand, constantly has in motion all avenues of potential assistance for His souls within their pre-birth agreement choices.
The arms of God, if you will, embrace each and every soul in this universe, and faster than the blink of an eye, his emissaries respond to his authorizing their aid to souls in distress that is not in their agreements.
Messages from Matthew - Matthew Books