Geoff: Dear Adamus, I was all set to write something fun and uplifting this month. Maybe something about consciousness, energy, Presence… something safe. Belle, the Shaumbra Service Dog, even offered to write the article with me. And then you show up with one word: Relationships. Really?
Adamus: Of course. Because that’s where Shaumbra still get tangled. You can talk about enlightenment all day long, but put Shaumbra into a relationship… and suddenly all that wisdom disappears faster than free wine at a Crimson Circle party.
Geoff: That’s… unfortunately accurate. Especially the part about the wine.
There’s probably no topic more charged, more confusing, and more emotionally loaded than relationships, especially romantic ones. For Shaumbra, it’s amplified, because we’re no longer willing to tolerate the old dynamics, but we’re not entirely sure what replaces them. Many Shaumbra still feel the desire for a relationship—not casual or superficial, but something real, deep, conscious and intimate. A true partner, someone to share life with. But at the same time, there’s hesitation. A big hesitation. Because we’ve been there. We’ve felt the intensity, the passion, the connection… and then watched it slowly—or sometimes explosively—fall apart. And that’s where Adamus steps in and says something most people don’t want to hear.
Adamus: Most of your relationships weren’t about love. They were about karma. Period.
Geoff: You’re not easing into this one, are you?
Adamus: Why would I? You didn’t come here for comfort. You came here for clarity.
For lifetimes, relationships have been built on unresolved energy—past-life entanglements, old agreements, unfinished business. You meet someone and feel that immediate pull, that magnetic attraction, that “I’ve known you before” sensation, and you call it love. Adamus calls it something else: “Love at first bite.” It’s that overwhelming attraction that feels destined, fated, meant to be… and then, a few months or years later, you’re wondering how you ended up in the same emotional mess you swore you’d never repeat again. The same patterns, arguments and emotional triggers. Different person… same damn story. And yes, it created experience. It gave you something to feel, something to react to, something to try to fix. But now that pattern is breaking down—not because something went wrong, but because you’re no longer unconscious enough to keep playing it.
Geoff: So what happens if someone is already in one of these karmic relationships—and it’s not exactly blissful?
Adamus: Then stop trying to fix it. That’s the addiction.
That’s the uncomfortable part, because the instinct is always to improve it. Communicate better. Be more conscious. Be more patient. Try harder. Do better. Maybe read one more relationship book or attend one more workshop that promises to “transform your connection.” But if the relationship is fundamentally karmic, all that effort just keeps the loop looping.
So what do you do? You become aware—not emotionally reactive or mentally analytical, just aware. Aware of the patterns, the energy exchange and how you’ve been hooked into it. And then—you stop feeding it. Not dramatically or with a big speech or with some grand exit designed to prove how enlightened you are. You simply stop engaging in the old way. You stop reacting, stop trying to fix, save, or manage the other person. And that’s when the real shift happens. Either the relationship begins to dissolve, or it transforms into something entirely different—but it will not remain the same.
Adamus: Karma requires participation. Stop participating, and watch how fast the whole thing collapses.
Now here’s where it gets really honest. When those old dynamics start falling apart, many Shaumbra don’t feel relief right away—they feel empty. The relationships have been the primary way you’ve experienced connection, validation, even identity. When that falls away, the question isn’t just “What now?” It’s, “Do I even want another relationship at all?” This is where we step into completely new territory, because what’s emerging now isn’t a better version of the old relationship—it’s a completely different paradigm.
Adamus calls it Love 2.0, and it has nothing to do with the emotional rollercoaster you’ve been calling love for lifetimes. This is not love that needs someone else to exist, not love that depends on behavior, and not love that rises and falls depending on how you’re being treated that day. This is love that comes from within—self-contained, sovereign and uncompromising.
Geoff: That sounds beautiful… but also a little isolating.
Adamus: Only if you’re still addicted to needing someone else to feel whole.
Let’s get very blunt for a moment. Most people don’t actually want love. They want validation. They want comfort. They want someone to tell them they’re okay. And when they don’t get that, they call it a “bad relationship.”
Adamus: You weren’t looking for love. You were looking for someone to help build and confirm your identity. There’s a big difference.
Now let’s address the question many Shaumbra are quietly asking: “What if I never have another romantic relationship in this lifetime?” Let’s not sugarcoat it—that possibility is very real. It’s not because you failed, or because something is wrong, but because you’ve moved beyond the old model.
Adamus: You’re not afraid of being alone. You’re afraid of no longer having someone to distract you from yourself.
Take that in. Because loneliness isn’t the absence of another person—it’s the absence of connection with yourself. And for lifetimes, relationships have been the perfect distraction… from yourself. When you begin to allow this deeper relationship with yourself—this Love 2.0—you start to feel something very different: your own presence, your own energy, your own consciousness. It’s not an idea, but rather a feeling of something real, intimate, and immediate. And in that, loneliness doesn’t just fade—it becomes irrelevant.
That doesn’t mean relationships disappear. It means they are no longer necessary. If one comes into your life now, it won’t be karmic, won’t be based on need, won’t be about completing or fixing each other. It will be two sovereign beings choosing to share experience—no dependency, no emotional contracts, and no hidden agendas. And yes, that can feel almost too simple.
Geoff: So no Hollywood romance?
Adamus: Hollywood is fantasy built on dysfunction. If you want drama, watch a movie. If you want consciousness, stop trying to recreate one.
So here’s the real question—not “Where is my partner?” and not “When will I meet the right one?” but: “Am I willing to be with myself—fully, honestly, without distraction?” Because until that answer is yes, no relationship will ever satisfy you. Not really.
Take a deep breath. Drop the search, drop the expectation, drop the quiet fear that something—or someone—is missing. Feel into this moment. You’re here. You’re aware. You exist. And in that, you are already in the most profound, intimate, inescapable relationship you will ever have.
Adamus: And if that’s not enough for you… no one else ever will be.
That’s the end of the illusion, and the beginning of something real.