One of the most difficult tasks a human being faces when awakening into a higher state of awareness is that of self love. It becomes clear that if they are to live from a consciousness of oneness, self cannot be excluded and a great deal of inner conflict frequently arises around attempts to love self.
Self righteous and ego based words spoken and actions taken at an earlier and less evolved time in ones life may have seemed perfectly acceptable at the time, but now, in the light of a new spiritual awareness they give rise to emotions of shame, regret, and embarrassment. Self-love seems impossible because the person is now blatantly aware of how completely he was governed by human ego.
Every individual is only capable of living out from their highest attained state of consciousness. Consciousness is all there is. It is our true being and everything is lived and experienced through it according to the three dimensional conditioning of the person’s consciousness. Many pretend to be of a state of consciousness they have not attained believing that it will allow them to be more accepted by society, other people, or one particular person. Scam artists are good examples of this. They assume to be something they are not in order to take advantage of someone else (relationships, money, health etc.) for personal gain.
Self-love is the ability to acknowledge, accept, and respect the un-desirable parts of one’s self just as much as the desirable ones from a place of non-resistance. It is the recognition that past actions reflect the state of consciousness that you were at that time but are no longer. Recognize that the personal qualities you dislike in yourself are simply habits that developed over lifetimes lived in less evolved times that remain in cellular memory. They are never yours unless you claim them as yours for the only reality you have ever been is your God reality.
The qualities that you dislike about yourself are nothing more than concepts based in three dimensional beliefs about what is good and what is bad (duality) with no real substance other than belief in them. They can serve as tools alerting you to remaining old concepts and beliefs you are still holding.
The law of attraction is based in oneness, that like energy always seeks to align with like energy. If you have a consciousness of self-loathing, you draw to yourself the experiences supporting that energy. This is the secret behind bullying. If consciously or unconsciously someone projects energies of “I am not worthy, I am not loveable, etc. etc.” a bully consciousness will align with it and honor the request. All are creators but have not been aware of it.
Physical, emotional, mental, and even religious practices of resistance, hate, condemnation, avoidance, and self-abuse can never bring a person to the place he seeks, that of becoming more “perfect” and thus more worthy of love from self and others. Instead, these negative actions simply hold a person in alignment with the negative energy of them strengthening his belief in unworthiness.
An acceptance of self, warts and all, can only come through realizing that these things are not God ordained, maintained, or sustained but are simply three dimensional expressions of duality and separation. Once you stop feeding them with energy, they have nothing to hold them in place. When resistance is put aside, truth realized, and self accepted there comes a sense of relief–a weight has been lifted and old energies needing attention no longer need to scream and act out in order to be recognized.
Start to see the qualities you do not like about yourself as the child part of you. The inner child desperately seeking to be acknowledged and loved, supported, and accepted as much as the “approved” parts.
As you begin to honestly accept and love the whole package that is you, the judgmental, critical, angry, and fearful parts of your energy field begin to gradually dissolve and give way without effort or even conscious awareness. As a person’s energy field begins to align with the higher frequencies of love and action it begins to create life from a new and higher level.
Whenever you feel yourself slipping into irritation, judgement, criticism, or some other habit regarding self or others, simply acknowledge it saying to your mind; “Oh, you again. No, we are not doing things that way any more, we are living and seeing the world this way…” Then let it go, blessing the person or event that activated the old energy. You will soon find yourself quietly becoming the person you want to be.
Loving self is not difficult once it is realized and accepted that everyone (yes, even the rich, famous, and airbrushed) learns and evolves on earth through illusory third dimensional experiences until at some point learning the hard way is no longer necessary. At a certain point of evolution, learning takes place on an easier and higher level because the person is able to get it from within. Accept that you were right where you were meant to be and learning exactly what you were meant to learn when you acted in the ways that may now cause you guilt and regret.
The key to self-love is understanding and accepting of self as SELF, rather than as a human being filled with sin and errors that need to be eliminated through any means no matter how harsh. You are now and always have been spiritual Beings regardless if you are choosing to live in “hell” or “heaven”. Everyone who has chosen to evolve through experiences of the third dimension has over their many lifetimes accumulated a lot of debris. It is as simple as that!
The sky will not fall down because you have a bad habit nor will you be punished or be forced to go back to square one. Consciousness never devolves backward. Because of free will you can keep it in a holding pattern, but you cannot go back to sleep after awakening.
The dirt in a pail of water never becomes the water. What you see may look cloudy and dark, but the water never becomes the dirt. Evolution is the process of adding more and more clean water (Light and awareness) until the water is clear. You don’t rant and rail at the dirt, you simply allow it to dissipate through the realization that cloudy water is in its true form, pure clear water.
You are infinitely worthy of love because it is what you are made of and if you exclude yourself, you reject the Source that individualized ITSELF as you.
Marilyn Raffaele 7/25/16